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Regrets
We all have them.
And we need to let some go, if not all. So can you do it? How can you do it?
You can, and only when you are good and ready.
There are several things you can do. You can leave a letter in a book, leave it in the library or book store and let someone else find it. You can write it in chalk on the sidewalk and then wash it. You can mail it to Post Secret, well that’s more for secrets, but you get the picture. You can take a rock, transfer your regrets to the rock and then toss it into the ocean or the woods or anywhere really. You can write a letter and mail it. Put a stamp on it or don’t. Put an address on it or done. You can have a fire ceremony and give it over to the fire to be transformed. Or you can even write a letter and bury it. Know it will be transformed.
I’ve participated in the fire ceremony and it was great. Freeing and totally worth it. I’ve written a letter and mailed it, with no stamp and a vague address. Each time, I’ve felt so much better.
Releasing regrets is an important part to the work that I’m doing. It sort of gives a clean slate to work with.
Are you struggling with some regrets? Is there something you need to let go of?
Do it. And feel the load instantly lift.
For me, I have trained myself to just let go. It doesn’t work 100% but I have to say after many years of self-evaluation, I’m at 98%. I’m a “live in the moment” kind of girl so it’s important for me to make a decision at this very moment on how I will live within this moment. Life is short and not guaranteed so I want to make each moment count and not let something in the past steal my joy. Regrets to me are second guessing yourself on a decision already that you cannot change. And when I looked at it that way, I realized that I was holding on to something that cannot be changed. Once you learn to let go of all the mess, your regrets won’t hang around. I look at life as a constant state of learning. Making mistakes and doing things that later you scratch your head at are all about learning the hard way. So I always try to learn the lesson and then let go and move on. It is so freeing when you look at life in this way. It sounds easy and it is ONCE you’re in that state. But getting to this state was hard, I won’t even lie. But it has been well worth it. Because in the end, all the bad stuff that happens is a blessing. It just means it wasn’t meant to be or that it happened to prepare you for something bigger and better. The Universe may not give us what we want when we want it but it will give us what we need when it feels we are ready. You just have to trust in that.
I don’t have many regrets – one that I am completely ready to let go of – I’m now looking for ideas on how to process them. These were great ideas, thanks
You are most welcome Catie! Welcome!